Friday, August 6, 2010

A Glorious Getaway, full of sunshine, family, friends and good food

We started our getaway with a night in Cambria at the OlallieberryInn

It was our second stay in the Angels Nook room at this charming bed & breakfast.


Our charming hostess, Marjorie Ott.









the lovely robe!


It's a little know fact that Cambria is the rubber ducky capital of the world.
Had to pick up a couple for Lila and Larkin.


An added bonus to a night in Cambria was dinner with friends from Newbury Park, Donna & Ken Day and their intelligent, handsome grandson, Michael.

We had to backtrack to Morro Bay for a visit to Lina G's, a vintage trim shop.
I'm putting my experience there in a separate post so I can share it with a wider audience.



Next stop: Nepenthe's
a must for us if we're anywhere near Big Sur.


We spent a non eventful night in Carmel. Don't particularly care if we return to the Vagabond Inn or Flaherty's Seafood Restaurant.

We headed up Hwy. 1 on Friday enjoying the sunshine and spectacular scenery.
Visits with family and chickens were a highlight of the afternoon.
Dinner with family Friday and airport run on Sat. to pick up Michael and Laurie.

New post for pictures of Carolyn and Alan's wedding.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Wonderful Wednesday

First off was discoving the UrbanBarn in Escondido
Here are some slides of fun things to be had
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THEN
came our class with KC Willis.
It's hard to describe how much fun we had so I won't. I'm just going to show you Davi's and my finished products and then send you to Silly Sally's blog because she documented the day so much better!



sillysalcreates

Just got the email this morning that KC's teaching more classes at Urban Barn in February. I've already signed up for the book class. Can't wait!
Check out lipstickranch for all the details.

Pretty interesting



Once again, I am glad I renewed my subscription to Newsweek.

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Larky




Once again my fabulous son-in-law captures precious moments!!!
larky

I have to say I loved seeing all my hats again.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

If I had a bucket list

a class with KC Willis would be on it.

Never did I imagine that I would be able to travel to CO to attend a real collage camp, BUT, lo and behold, KC is coming to San Diego, and I was lucky enough to hear about it in time to sign up for a one day class.

Her art is certainly one of a kind and incorporates all the things that I love.



Small art quilts, which I was first introduced to by Jane LaFazio are right up my alley!
Small enough to finish, detailed enough to be really interesting.

In the class I hope to get better at transferring photos, especially vintage family ones, to fabric and embellishing them with this and that.
Here's a sample of one I did a while back, and I can't wait to add one with Lila and Larkin.


Should you have any interest in joining Davi and me on July 21st at the Urban Barn in Escondido (which sounds like it's worth a trip in itself) I'm posting a link to KC's website. You can get more details about the class in the sidebar, Workshops and Videos and once there at the tab, KC on the road.
There are a couple of spots left, but will no doubt be snatched up quickly.

Monday, July 5, 2010

Available on Amazon



Most of you already have my coffee cake recipe, but just in case you'd like to buy the cookbook, click here and I'll get some Amazon credit.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

The beginning of the end of the beginning

There is an automatic correlation between raising a CCI pup and heartbreak.
We embrace them so enthusiastically
at 8 weeks of age, eager to shape them into pups of distinction.
We get up with them at all hours of the night for the first few weeks, we endure the time when we'd like to kill them because they've eaten our favorite shoes, ruined our sprinkler systems, chewed the carpet, vomited on the stairs, just because they're so cute. We fluff up our chests with pride when we can take them to church, a mall, the library and they elicit so many comments of 'what a well behaved pup'.
Inevitably the time comes when we must part.
America's time is near, August 14.
I received in the mail today her final paper work: make sure she's had all her shots, send a couple of photos you'd like to see in the slide show (does that couple only mean two from 16 months of extreme closeness and pride???).
My heart is heavy, but in the 7 years I've been associated with CCI, I've seen miracles happen.
I love America so much, but I wish with all my heart she will grace another person's life (someone needier than I) with all the joy that she exudes. If it is not meant to be, I shall welcome her back with open arms and we will begin a new chapter of making a difference.
Here are a couple of photos of her outings the last few days - always dependable, always joyful!
God Bless America!


Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Yea, the breadmaker's back



This is the first batch of bread Rod's made since his accident, rosemary sourdough. Yum!

Monday, June 21, 2010

An extraordinary Exhibit

San Diego Book Arts is hosting a phenomenal exhibit at Geisel Library on the UCSD campus from now through July 4th.
This slideshow captures a few of my favorites.
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Each of the 61 entries is totally different, but equally intriguing.
I had the pleasure of attending with 3 art aficionados, but who also happen to be foodies, so we topped off our field trip with a visit to the Burger Lounge where the grass fed beef is truly mouth watering.
Our friend from Nebraska, who met us there, verifies the authenticity of the beef.

It's here!!!!




I'm so excited that my autographed copy of Mary Engelbreit's new cookbook, Fan Fare, arrived today, featuring on p. 40 a recipe submitted by yours truly.
Even 15 seconds of fame is thrilling to me:-)
Looks like lots of good recipes are included, and quotes, which I love, abound, not to mention her beloved artwork scattered throughout.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

A powerful homily

We're blessed at St. James to have such a gifted homilist as Peter Hodsdon.

His sermon yesterday caused us to think about abortion in a whole new light. Christ is forgiveness and how can we, as Christians, do anything less than forgive?

The Gospel of Luke has been the favorite of many women over the years and here is a prime example of why that is the case. We are presented with the touching, poignant story of a so-called “sinful” woman who despite her life as an apparent outcast, has braved ridicule and rejection to seek forgiveness and healing from the one person she somehow knows will accept her, Jesus. She never says a word – she doesn’t have to. Her sobs, her tears, her gentle caress of Jesus’ feet as she anoints them speak volumes. Put yourself in the scene. She realizes that she has no towel, perhaps looking for something to use, anything, and in utter abandonment, uses her long hair, the very mark of a fallen woman in that era, to dry the feet of Jesus. And Jesus, moved by the woman’s humility and likewise irritated at the pomposity of Simon the Pharisee, says the words that He knows will bring peace to the woman and horrify the righteous guests. “Your sins are forgiven.” “Go in peace.”
We’re not told what the woman’s sin was – we assume adultery, of course, for what else would drive this woman to such a state? It’s interesting to bring this story into the 21st century and ask the same question. What would drive a woman to such a state? I’m not sure the answer today would still be adultery. Adultery is practically celebrated these days, especially in our overheated entertainment media.
But I think that there is one that has taken its place in our day and age – an act that despite its legality is never celebrated, and often mourned long after it is done. I’m talking about abortion. It’s interesting to see the collective tension in the Church rise at that word, and immediately the three elephants of politics, morality, and polarized thinking enter the room. I’m going to ask those elephants to leave, however, because I’m not here to discuss those points today. I’m here to talk about healing. I’m here to talk about forgiveness and new life.
About six million women in the US become pregnant every year; of these pregnancies, 1.2 million end in abortion, about 20 percent. I’m not telling this to you to shock you, but to point out that there is a very high likelihood that every adult in this Church knows a woman who has had an abortion, whether you realize it or not. There is growing evidence that despite the woman’s conviction at the time of the abortion that it was the right thing to do, many suffer from depression and related anxiety disorders for years following the event. Worse yet, women who abort their pregnancies are less likely to obtain professional help than women who have had stillbirths. My point is simple: there is a large population of women in our very real world who are in pain, who are suffering, who feel that they cannot seek help – all the consequence of a poor choice at a vulnerable moment. Their pain transfers to their spouses, their significant others, many of whom suffer beside them in solidarity. There’s an awful lot of weeping going on. So here’s the question: how can we be like Jesus to these women?
Reread the first reading. David, accused of murder by Nathan the prophet, acknowledges his deed and what does God do? He forgives David. Reread this gospel. Does Jesus shun this woman? No. Does he condemn her? No. Does he demand that she do penance? No. You can bet that this sinful woman would not have taken the immense risk she did if there was any hint of Jesus rejecting her. Somehow she knew that Jesus was a safe place to seek peace. This is the first step we need to take as well. Can we be a safe place for the woman who has had an abortion? Can we be there for her without causing additional grief and pain? I invite you to examine your emotional state, your own feelings on the matter. If a woman came to you today and divulged that she has had an abortion, how would you react? What if she wants to justify herself? What if she is depressed and angry? What if she simply needs to share?
Here are some things to consider:
 A person going through a grieving process often displays many complicated emotions. Don’t get wrapped up in the emotions. See the grieving person inside.
 Healing takes a long time, marked by many, often messy, setbacks.
 As a disciple of Jesus, make the distinction between public rhetoric and the reality of a person who is sitting in front of you in pain. Once the abortion is a reality, a done deed, what good is there in labels, party politics, and talking points?
 If the person comes from a strong religious background, understand that the shame and guilt can be doubly crippling. She can feel hopelessly condemned, to the point where she cannot imagine that she can be forgiven. Can you be the first one to say, “I am so sorry for your loss. I know it must have been difficult. How can I help you find peace?”
 Don’t try to fix the situation or force healing. Use a method that works in prison – listen, listen, love, love. Communicate compassion.
 Offer support resources. I’ll leave you with one resource to remember. There is an excellent web site called Abortion Changes You.com. This is a simple, completely non-political web site that offers resources for women who have had abortions and those who care about them. There is also a link to local counselors that requires only a zip code.
What if you know someone who you suspect is suffering from an abortion experience? Or who has confided to you in the past and you had nothing to offer? How do you approach them? Here’s a simple way. Mention that you heard a homily on Sunday about post-abortion healing and you thought of her. I have already posted this homily on my web site – www.dcnpeterh.com. Feel free to download and send it to her. Or, as I mentioned above, point her to abortionchangesyou. It’s noted in the bulletin this week. Above all, if you open the door, prepare to walk through it with her. We’re not into hit-and-run compassion!
This homily is not sponsored by a political party. There is no hidden agenda here. A number of weeks ago, I spoke about the difference between the container and the contents. This is about the content that is Jesus. Jesus demonstrates how to be in relationship with a person in intense pain. He is a safe place, he is available, he listens, he forgives, he heals, he sends in peace.
There is a difference between fighting evil -- and caring for the wounded, just as we distinguish between justice and charity. We are called to do both if we’re to be credible followers of Jesus. After all, they’ll know we are Christians by our love. And love transforms the world.

San Diego Vacation 2010

Derek is a genius!!!



look how cute sweet baby Larky is.

here's a link to see the rest, almost, of the fam enjoying the grands

grands

Friday, June 11, 2010

Just in case you thought you missed it...


International Outdoor Knitting Day isn't until Sunday, June 13th!



You can knit anywhere as long it is outdoors and passersby are encouraged add a few rows…

Guerrilla knitters are a form of urban taggers who leave their knitting tags on lamp posts, traffic lights or any public post.

Highly recommended!




Katie, Derek, Lila, Larkin and I had such a fun time on our photo shoot with Pam Birmingham and Lyn Comunale last Monday.
We met at San Dieguito Park and spent a morning surrounded by beauty and captured by Pam's gifted photographer's eye.
She graciously sent me samples to post.

I was in awe of Pam's enthusiasm and patience and can't wait to see what Lyn creates with her talent for card making.



Another gifted former student of mine

This is a speech written by Samantha Mueller

September 4, 2001 was the first day of kindergarten at St. James Academy. I remember seeing 28 new faces and a brand new place where I was going to be spending nine more years of my life. I know that the rest of us felt the same way, too. Now it’s June 11, 2010, and we are graduating from the school we have grown to know and love as a place of great memories and friendship after nine amazing years. This class is like a family. We all know each other like the back of our hand. We care for each other as we do our families. Our class is unique. We are talented musically and athletically. We are artistic and intelligent, but there’s something else not many classes have. We have a special bond that allows each one of us to get along with each other. We accept everyone and we include everyone. We treat everyone with respect and kindness. Here are the ABCs for the graduating class of 2010.
A is for affectionate. Each one of us shows an unconditional support and kindness to each other.
B is for benevolent dictator. Mr. Keeley taught us that you can help and teach in a kind and loving way.
C is for Christ-like. We are all made in God’s image and we all strive to act like it too.
D is for devotion. This class is devoted to God, each other, working hard to achieve our goals. We strive to do the best we can and to help others do the best they can.
E is for energetic. All of us are full of life and energy.
F is for family. We cry together and we laugh together. We sing and pray together. We always care for each other no matter what.
G is for generous. Everyone serves their community and donates to others. We give donations to organizations to help those who are in need. We always try to give what we can when others have nothing.
H is for human. We are all only human so we make mistakes. Our class learned to forgive each other and to move on.
I is for interesting. Our class has so many different personalities that when they are combined together, it creates the perfect place to be happy.
J is for Jesus. Through our many years at St. James, we have grown to know and learn more about our faith. We have all grown closer to Jesus, and we understand him more because we attended mass every Friday. We have learned about our faith in religion classes since kindergarten.
K is for kindness. I know that everyone is kind but this class shows it every day to everyone.
L is for laughter. This class will always remember the many good times we had together. Whether it was in class or at a party, we always found time to laugh and have a good time, but we also knew when it was time to work.
M is for mature. I think everybody has noticed how much we have matured since kindergarten. We have grown and learned together. We have grown closer to God and our friends. We also learned more about ourselves and others through the years. We learned how to treat people and how to treat ourselves. We learned how to communicate maturely and how to share.
N is for new people. Since our class is a kind and loving environment, we have always welcomed new people. On the first day they came to school, they would be a stranger, but after the first week of school, they would be our friends.
O is for optimistic. This class is excited for our future endeavor into high school. We all have great expectations for ourselves and each other.
P is for peaceful. When it is time to pray, we all settle down and talk to God.
Q is for quality. We all give it our best shot to achieve and prosper.
R is for respect. We all show the utmost respect for each other because we are like a family.
S is for social. I think our teachers agree that our class has great social skills that enable us to get along well with others.
T is for trust. We always can count on each other. Everyone is trustworthy and keeps to their word.
U is for unbelievable. Our class is unbelievably talented in all aspects of life.
V is for vivacious. We are all lively and animated.
W is for wonderful. This class is everything one could ask for and more. We go beyond expectations.
X is for extra memorable. I know we will always remember our class because we shared great memories that we will cherish forever, and I know that we all will keep in touch during our high school years.
Y is for young. We are still young and can’t wait to see what the future will bring.
And finally, Z is for zest. Everyone in this class is fun to be around. We all like to be together.

Now that our time here at St. James Academy has ended and we all will go our separate ways, I hope and think that we will all remember our time at St. James Academy. Most of us have spent the majority of our lives here. I think we can all say that it has been a very positive and uplifting experience because we have learned that we can always make good friends that love us for who we are; God is always there for us no matter what, and that this class in inseparable. We are together for life, and we will not forget each other. We will always remember our special class. Thank you

I'm in awe of her talent and wish her continued success in high school.

I consider it such a privilege that I was able to teach at a school that instills a love of God, family, and mankind and provides a place to practice each on a daily basis.

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

If you love baseball like I do, read this

What an Umpire Could Teach BP

by Jon Meacham Newsweek, June 04, 2010
Baseball, the late Bart Giamatti once said, is a tragic undertaking. “It is designed to break your heart,” Giamatti, Yale president and baseball commissioner, wrote in an essay titled “The Green Fields of the Mind.” “The game begins in the spring, when everything else begins again, and it blossoms in the summer, filling the afternoons and evenings, and then as soon as the chill rains come, it stops and leaves you to face the fall alone. You count on it, rely on it to buffer the passage of time, to keep the memory of sunshine and high skies alive, and then just when the days are all twilight, when you need it most, it stops.”

Of all sports, I think, baseball most resembles life. The seasons are long; defeat is familiar; repetition often, but not always, makes you better. And it is not necessarily fun all the time: our colleague George F. Will wrote a splendid book on the game with the telling title of Men at Work.

A drama that played out last week in Detroit is that rarest of public moments: one in which everyone involved acted with grace, giving the country an example not only of sportsmanship but of how to conduct oneself in politics, in business, in journalism, and in daily life. Armando Galarraga was on the mound for the Detroit Tigers, who were playing at home against the Cleveland Indians. As the innings passed, Galarraga put down batter after batter, and with only one out to go in the ninth, he was on the verge of pitching a perfect game—one in which no player on the opposing team ever reaches base, either with a hit, a walk, or on an error. Cleveland’s Jason Donald hit an infield grounder and, to most eyes watching, the throw to first for the final out beat the runner. Perfection was, it seemed, achieved.

The eyes that mattered, however, saw things differently in that split second. The umpire, Jim Joyce, blew the call, ruling the runner safe. Galarraga missed out on one of sport’s greatest accomplishments. The umpire made a mistake. “I just cost that kid a perfect game,” Joyce said afterward. There was no malice, no agenda, just plain human error. There was no appeal, and that was that.

Except it wasn’t. The next day, after the umpire had realized his mistake and apologized, admitting forthrightly that he had been wrong and was sorry, he and the pitcher met at home plate. The Tiger fans cheered Joyce as he and Galarraga stood together; Joyce was visibly moved by the pitcher’s grace, and the crowd’s. He had made a human error, but by acting like a gentleman, he emerged from what he referred to as his Warholian “15 minutes of fame” as a principled man.

The contrast with the head of BP, Tony Hayward, could hardly have been starker. “You know, I’d like my life back,” Hayward said last week (he later apologized). Louisiana Gov. Bobby Jindal rightly excoriated Hayward, and now comes what we might call the Joyce test: will Hayward and those most directly engaged in the spill and its implications move forward with candor and clarity? Hayward has blown much so far, from the initial explosion to the early reaction to his unfortunate remarks. He needs to keep saying the company is sorry, and press on to undo—or at least contain—the untold damage the leak is causing. He and BP can only be parts of any solution, not the whole thing: as Sharon Begley writes in this week’s cover, the potential toll of the BP disaster is nearly incomprehensible.


This and a few other articles in this week's Newsweek is causing me to reconsider letting my Newsweek subscription lapse.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Lest you think I've been slacking

take a look at my blog heartsdelight
in between the weeding, decluttering (most of which consists of moving piles to less conspicuous places), working out at the gym and reading fabulous books, i've managed to tap into some of my creativity.

self-help at it's best


I can't say enough good things about this book.
From just taking the next right step (instead of being overwhelmed by the whole big picture) to learning that you are the CEO of your joy, Regina Brett has hit the mark on how to live life to the fullest.

So far I've purchased 4 books to share with family/friends, but have to have my own copy to reread again and again.

Monday, May 10, 2010

What a beautiful essay from one of my former students

CHARACTER COUNTS by Patrice Nguyen, 5th grade, St. James Academy

Imagine that you are in a department store shopping for clothes. As you shop around, you notice some jeans that fell off the racks. What would you do?

Would you pick up the jeans and place them back on the racks, or would you pass by them like you never saw it? Imagine another situation. You went food shopping and your cart is full. You checked-out and paid for all your items. You leave the food store and had quite a long walk to your car. As you were loading your car with the goods you bought, you notice a box of sodas under your cart worth $5.00. The cashier forgot to charge you for it. Would you go back and pay for it, or would you take it and leave? These are simple situations that I think can judge one’s character. Well, I know someone with good character, my mother. She would pick up those jeans and yes, no matter how far her car is parked, she would go back to the store and let the cashier know of the unpaid item and pay for it. Another thing about her, if I am in an argument with someone and I am wrong, don’t expect her to side me just because I am her daughter, she will always side the person who is right, with an explanation.

Character matters a lot. Your character is WHO YOU ARE. It is how you think, feel, and act. If you have good character, you will earn the respect of people around you and certainly get God’s attention. My mother would say, “Good character is the ticket to heaven.” I think it is hard to have all the character traits. Some of these traits are: honesty, caring, trustworthy, responsibility, citizenship and cooperation. We should try to obtain if not all, some of these traits. I think people who care for small things definitely care for bigger things. Having good character also means doing good things to others and showing you care about what’s around you. In turn, good things will happen to you. To have good character is to have good morals and ethics. If only every person in this world tries to follow the character traits, there would be absolute peace in this world. So, the next time you see clothes fall off the rack, pick it up and put them back. If your in a big or small situation, CARE! Always remember what Mr. Micheal Josephson, a radio commentator, says, “Character Counts.”

NOTE: For her hard work and thoughtfulness, Patrice was awarded first place in an essay writing contest sponsored by the University of San Diego.

From my own personal experience, Cathleen Nguyen embodies good character for all of us and I've been privileged to have been the recipient of her generosity many many times.
Patrice is a gifted student, accomplished pianist, so talented artist and now prize winning author. Congratulations to the whole Nguyen Family!

Look what I've been missing!

I've been so busy lately, doing who knows what, and seldom take time to read my favorite blogs.

I also am behind in reading favorite magazines, some of which I actually purposefully put off reading because I like them so much and I don't want to not have one available in case of emergency.

So I grabbed one in the wings, this morning as I headed into the gym. I didn't think I could read while on the bike, but I can.
The one I grabbed was the March April issue of ClothPaperScissors


There were so many articles that required too much attention, even tearing out of the magazine, so I headed to the back to read
Loretta Benedetto Marvel's column, an Artist's Journey, where I knew I'd find humor, and affirmation.
Not only did I find those pleasures, I also had an aha moment. I know why I like her so much. She's a perfect Erma Bombeck.
For those of you youngun's Erma was the epitome of motherhood to me. She wrote about being a mother/housewife with such honesty and humor.
Loretta does the same,only with the added perspective of being an artist/attorney.

Her article in this issue focuses on the quantity of materials a mixed media artist much collect and trying to explain same to her husband. It's really a treasure!
If you don't have the magazine at least you can check in on her blog pomegranatesandpaper to savor her down to earthness.

behind the curve

I suppose everyone else knows about 10x10 but me.

I found out about it in this book:

It was listed under the category of "12 websites you (meaning old fogies) should know".

10x10 consists of a 10x10 grid of thumbnail sketches and 100 words lined up by the grid.
They give an hourly update of stories garnered from news sources around the world. It's pretty user friendly, but decidedly frightening to be able to summon so much information and then be able to disseminate it so succinctly and so quickly.

I also learned from reading the above mentioned book that young people don't email and don't read newspapers (they also don't wear watches, but tell time from their phones- and I just got that cool watch from Rod for my b'day that reads my heart rate and tells me how far I've walked) and those of us that do are really dating ourselves! I guess I should have figured as much. I'm only on #32 out of 185 ways to not act old, and wait with much anticipation to find out what else I need to learn, well maybe not so much learn, as be aware of. Watch out, here I come!

Thursday, May 6, 2010

A funny discovery

I never got on the DWTS, American Idol bandwagons, mostly because I don't watch TV, but I often feel very out of it when so very often the conversation among my friends turns to the latest contestants, either being voted off or making the cut.

Well I'm looking for someone to get in on my newest discovery, HoSprings, a serialized novel with outlandish characters and locales, i.e. a racetrack, a diner, a spa, a strip club.
I'm quite far behind, as the author is up to #50 and I'm only at chapter 12, but I'm off to visit "a little spa town near the gates of hell" as we speak.

ttfn

If you're a burger lover keep reading!


What a fun experience, building a custom burger at TheCounter in The Forum in Carlsbad.


I chose 1/3 beef, way larger than I would have liked, medium well, in a bun, with gruyere cheese, grilled onions, market greens, dried cranberries, and aioli sauce. Every bite was a mouthwatering experience. My esteemed colleagues voted the sweet potato fries the best. I myself thought the onion strings delectable.

I'm guessing none of the choices support my diet so it will be a while till I return, but the happy memory will linger!
Go ahead and splurge!

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

weeds - a bane of my existence

how timely of Davi to send me this email from Brave Girls Daily Truth BraveGirlsClub, since I've been complaining about the weeds in my yard. Now is the time to deal with them and I thank her for this encouraging message to deal with inside weeds too.




Sorry for the cut off. It won't fit in my two column
space.
I so envy my gardening friends, but can never get
past the weeds to enjoy the beauty of gardening.
Maybe this time.

Also timely is finding this image on my
Mary Engelbreit daily calendar:


Sunday, May 2, 2010

Sage advice from the Squeen of Silly

It's now May and I can look back on the life changing events in April with different eyes.
On the 1 to 10 scale, Larkin's easy birth and the joy of spending time with Lila who continually makes me laugh with glee was a 10. Rod's fall on the other end of the scale was a 1. So sad that with a little thought on my part it would never have happened.
Now he's put in the position of being disabled for 6 months. The bright spot is feeling the support of his sister Kathleen, who drove over from AZ to be nurse extraordinaire, the professional advice of another sister, Rosie, and the numerous friends who immediately reached out. Willie, the ice machine was a god-send. Neil, Diane, Pam, Paula, Rose, your food sustained the soul, as well as the body. Dennis and Derek, your books provided much needed escape. Countless cards from others broke the monotony of the days.

Because of these events I put on hold the online class, The Art of Silliness, I had signed up for.


Taught by Carla Sonheim snowballjournals it was meant to be an exercise to free the inner child in you and make drawing fun. It began on April Fool's Day and
each succeeding day in April Carla sent an email with lots of funny jokes, sayings and a drawing assignment that encouraged sillyness.
I think I completed day 1, then got caught up in babies and knees. I have each one downloaded and am so looking forward to silly days in May.

Carla concluded with some sage advice which I would like to share.

AND FINALLY....
A week or so ago fellow silleur Louise D. emailed me with a question, and I asked her if I could share our exchange with you. She graciously agreed. Thank you Louise!!!


From Louise
Miss Squeen...I have a wee frustration on one of my silly assignments. It's the one about drawing a picture about the poem with the granny apple. Well, my imagination worked FINE when I figured out what I wanted to do, but when I tried to draw what was in my imagination, that' when things got ugly!!! My Eiffel tower didn't look like anything remotely close to an Eiffel tower and I tried to put little silly people all over the place, but they don't look like people at all because I don't know how to draw a face in profile. I couldn't make them dance because I couldn't figure out how to draw people from different angles....and everyone's hands look like scribbles. I believe I was doing better at drawing a picture such as this when I was in 2nd grade!!! I feel frustrated because it doesn't look like my imagination was picturing...it doesn't look silly and nothing resembles what it should. Do you want to see? Can you give me some advice? Thank you, oh royal Squeen bee. Louise

From Carla
I would love to see it... can you email me a copy?

I'm pretty sure I can speak to your frustrations even without looking at it, though! I think it might be a case of expecting too much from yourself!!

But send me the drawing and I will be able to speak more intelligently.

(Louise sends drawing the next day, and you can go to the Sillyblog and see it there)

I got it... I'm "down" today with allergies and so not up to responding intelligently... however, at first glance, your drawing is delightfully "childlike" -- in that wonderful, good way Picasso talks about.

From Louise
Child-like yes, but out of whack too because I can't figure out how to do more realistic hands, profiles, a group of dancing fruit people, etc. It would be great if I wanted it that way...I guess the problem arises when that's the BEST I CAN do... it's rather embarrassing actually :)

From Carla
R
egarding your drawing and frustration with it... I totally hear what you're saying and hope that I can help in some way....

I'm assuming that you did this drawing completely from your imagination, correct? In other words, you didn't have a photo of the Eiffel Tower in front of you? Or a person in profile?

For some reason with drawing many of us assume that we "should" be able to draw these things completely from our heads. The truth is, all these are very complicated shapes and forms, and until we've drawn the Eiffel Tower or a human face in profile (or dancing people or hands) many many times, even the "best" artists need a reminder of how these things actually look (and would go online or to the library to get photo references). (PS... I think your hands are WONDERFUL just how they are!)

I wonder a lot about how and why we have such high expectations for ourselves when it comes to drawing. It could be a generational thing.... many of us who are older than 40 were "taught" that only those who could draw like Norman Rockwell, for example, were "artists." Then many of us stopped drawing at all in 3rd or 4th grade and labeled ourselves as someone who "can't draw."

The truth is, drawing is a journey, a process, and a skill to be developed and enjoyed over time... Try to think of it like learning a language... you start taking a Spanish class, for example, and learn a few words or phrases. You struggle with the accent. Every once in awhile you come out with a sentence that is both grammatically correct AND the proper accent... yay! But if you've only been trying to learn Spanish for a few weeks, you would hardly expect yourself to be fluent... it's the same with drawing... it is totally like learning a language.... think of the Eiffel Tower as a "word" or the profile of a human face as another "word." Pretty soon, when you have said it/drawn it enough times, it will start to be part of your "vocabulary" and will flow out more effortlessly. In the beginning, though, you have to keep looking it up in the dictionary!!

If you can think of your drawing here as a "sketch" or a "note" just to jot down your (fabulous) ideas, you might not be so hard on yourself!

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LAST WORD
Please, PLEASE don't be so hard on yourself with your drawing! Like anything, the more you do it, the "better" you will get.

But also, like anything -- playing tennis, learning a language, learning to dance the salsa, etc. -- you will have "good days" and "bad days." No matter how proficient you get at any of these things, some days you just won't have the energy or patience to do them very well. But it's okay!! It's all part of the bigger picture that is life. (Good and bad... pretty and not-so-pretty... happy and sad...)

Thank you again!

Carla Sonheim


I'm especially looking forward to Carla's book being released in July

and just discovered she illustrated another book, which looks like it's right up my God/dog alley.


Thank you, Carla!!!

and on another note, have no idea how that photobucket square arrived, nor do i know how to get rid of it... any suggestions would be much appreciated.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Shantaram



The ending paragraph of an extraordinary book.
"For this is what we do. Put one foot forward and then the other. Lift our eyes to the snarl and smile of the world once more. Think. Act. Feel. Add our little consequence to the tides of good and evil that flood and drain the world. Drag our shadowed crosses into the hope of another night. Push our brave hearts into the promise of a new day. With love: the passionate search for a truth other than our own. With longing: the pure, ineffable yearning to be saved. For so long as fate keeps waiting, we live on. God help us. God forgive us. We live on."

Shantaram tells the story of criminal who escapes from a prison in Australia and makes his way to Bombay. He dwells in the shadowed underworld of crime, but on his journey meets some incredible people whom he comes to love and he nearly sacrifices his life for them.
Some of the harsh reality and violence reminded me a little of James Frey's story, A Million Little Pieces, only in reverse. Shantaram is a novel, based on the true life story of the author, Gregory David Roberts, as opposed to Frey's 'true story' which really turned out to be a novel.
It's a heavy book, both literally (936 pages) and figuratively. Philosophy plays a large role in the story. "The only kingdom that makes any man a king is the kingdom of his own soul. The only power that has any real meaning is the power to better the world."
"Sometimes, we see the past so clearly, and read the legend of its parts with such acuity, that every stitch of time reveals its purpose, and a kind of message is enfolded in it. Nothing in any life, no matter how well or poorly lived, is wiser than failure or clearer than sorrow. And in the tiny, precious wisdom that they give to us, even those dread and hated enemies, suffering and failure, have their reason and their right to be.'


I'm so grateful to Mary for recommending this book to me. I know it will stay with me longer than most.

Monday, March 15, 2010

my other blog

just put a bunch of photos of recently finished projects on my other blog heartsdelight

this is the one I'm most proud of:


it took me a while to figure out how I wanted to finish it, but got great ideas from this book:


Lesley Riley was an instructor at An Artful Journey, the fabulous retreat Davi and I attended in Los Gatos.

Thursday, March 11, 2010

On my daily walks I secretly plan my own 'knit and run'


West Cape May authorities and residents are on the lookout for an unknown person, dubbed The Midnight Knitter, according to The Press of Atlantic City.
When darkness falls, the mystery knitter takes to the streets of the shore town and covers tree branches and lampposts with little sweaters.
Yes, you read that right, little sweaters.
And the knitter (or knitters) are displaying their wooly work on Facebook and a Web site.
Although residents and the town’s mayor agree that the colorful patterns are captivating and better than graffiti, the handiwork is illegal.
“We don’t know who it is,” Mayor Pam Kaithern told The Press. “Technically, they shouldn’t be doing it. The police are asking about it, but it’s fun and it’s a mystery.”
The town’s main concern? That when the yarn becomes faded, the cozy creations be taken down.
Wow, if this is West Cape May’s most pressing unsolved mystery, we’re thinking it’s time to move there.




Here's the book I'll get my pattern from:

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

An Unusual Read



Long a fan of epistolary novels, most notably:
A Woman of Independent Means by Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey
Daddy Long Legs by Jean Webster,
Griffin and Sabine by Nick Bantok
The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Society by Annie Barrows
Ella Minnow Pea by Mark Dunn

I was delighted to discover Homeland.

It's a series of letters written during the Civil War between a woman living on a small island in Maine, whose husband, a Tennessean, feels compelled to join the Confederate Army to preserve his homeland, and a friend in Tennessee who is a strong anti-secessionist. There are many twists in the plot, but overall a strong testament to friendship AND the power of books to provide escape from the horrors of war (and depression I might add). "This is what they do for us, both books and friends: they remind us what it is to be human. As you wrote to me, they are the window into sunlight, even if we ourselves are shut in the dark."

Saturday, February 27, 2010

Attn: all pray-ers



This sweet little one year old, Mikey, is suffering from a serious infection.
He's been receiving chemo treatments, and doing well but, as sometimes happens, he developed a serious infection at the chemo port site. If you are a prayer, please say one for Mikey and all the Vanis family.

Prayer from today's Magnificat

O God, You have loved us without our deserving it. You have forgiven us without our earning it. You have blessed us when we could not bless you. Grant us the grace to love as we have been loved, through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Thursday, February 25, 2010

The Outliers



Not being a fan of nonfiction I was surprised by how much I enjoyed The Outliers, The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell.

I learned (and actually retained) a great deal about how people get to the top of their game. It turns out to be a combination of luck, i.e., being born in the right year or even in the right month of the year or in the right place of the right parents AND hard hard work, up to 10,000 hours of hard work. I found it fascinating.

Wednesday, February 24, 2010



Here's an article on Laurie's new line from Style.
Can't wait to see it for myself!
This proud mama's bustin' her buttons!

Rebuilding Equipment
February 17, 2010 3:45 pm

Once upon a time in the late seventies, Christian Restoin—the longtime partner of Carine Roitfeld—married the aesthetics of Network and disco with a line of breezy silk menswear-styled shirts for women called Equipment. Throughout the eighties and nineties, they were the linchpin day-to-night item in a smart city girl’s wardrobe. For a label to shutter because of family and business politics, as happened here, is a familiar nineties story. But it’s a promising one Equipment’s telling for the aughts: The line relaunches for Spring 2010.

Last night, Becka Diamond hosted the long-awaited unveiling at Saks, where designers Rebecca Minkoff and Victor Glemaud and stylist Keegan Singh stopped by to check out the action. Serge Azria—brother of Max, owner of Current/Elliott and Joie, and now informal “guardian” of Equipment—attended both the cocktail party and the intimate dinner that followed at Indochine. “Everyone here is too young to remember the original line,” he said, gesturing at the youthful attendees around him. “But ask your mothers—they will remember Equipment! And I guarantee you they loved it.” He reveals that Restoin, who remains connected to the newly relaunched brand, has kept every Equipment shirt ever created in his Paris archives—all 3,500 of them. Meanwhile, the 135 new Equipment styles do the brand’s “new vintage” legacy justice and integrate seamlessly into the tailored, menswear-inspired trends hitting New York’s runways this week. That’s something mothers and daughters alike can appreciate.

Equipment is currently available exclusively at Saks, and will come to Barneys later this spring.
—Colleen Nika
tags: Becka Diamond, Christian Restoin, Current/Elliott, Equipment, Joie, Keegan Singh, Rebecca Minkoff, Serge Azria, Victor Glemaud

Friday, February 5, 2010

Noah's Compass



Since all I've been doing is reading, it's hard to believe that I only have one book to recommend and I only recommend it with reservations.
Some of Anne Tyler's books have been so pertinent in my life, particularly Back When We were Grownups and Ladder of Years, so I had high hopes for Noah's Compass. I have to say it only fed my depression instead of easing it. It's the story Liam, a 'laid-off' aging teacher with no real connection to his family and no meaning in his life.
Early on he is attacked in his bed and has no memory of the incident. "This was not his true self, he wanted to say. This was not who he really was. His true self had gone away from him and had a crucial experience without him and failed to come back afterward." Those words seem to describe my own self as well.
The title comes from a discussion with his four year old grandson about Noah not needing a compass. "...Noah didn't need to figure out directions, because the whole world was underwater and so it made no difference." That little bit alone didn't justify.
Liam begins to find some joy and meaning in his life, but this too is pulled out from under him. I had a hard time feeling anything other than pity. While there are several parts in the book I could've, might've cried, I didn't, which is telling in itself.
My final thought would be, don't bother.