From: "Karen Salmansohn"
Subject: A Juicy Happiness Lesson...
To: adeakers2002@yahoo.com
Date: Sun, 13 Apr 2008 10:05:42 -0400 (EDT)
A Juicy Happiness Lesson...
Have you taken a look at some of those newfangled juice names: Get Smart Juice, Passion Power, Energy Hound, Hocus Focus, B-Relaxed, D-Stress.
So many juices promising so many benefits!
But nobody makes Compassion Cocktail or Niceness Nectar! Nobody makes a juice which makes you nicer or more considerate, offers up the potential for building up a bigger, warmer heart!
I know what you’re thinking: Maybe the manufacturers just can’t make it!
But, I’m betting if there were money to be made in Compassion Cocktail or Niceness Nectar, companies would find a way to make that juice.
Besides, are you really sure any of those other juices (like Passion Power and Hocus Focus) work anyway?
And yet you buy them, just for the hope they will help.
I am betting companies would never even bother to put in the research to create a Compassion Cocktail or a Niceness Nectar, because they have a corporate sense that niceness, compassion and consideration are just not valued enough in this world to sell to the masses!
Which kind of explains much of the mess our world is in globabally. And why people are so unhappy personally.
Kindness, compassion and consideration are key TRUE HAPPINESS DETERMINATORS, right on up there with having high self esteem and sharing intimate connections with others. Which makes sense, because the kinder you are in life, the more you raise your self esteem and the more you increase your connections with others.
Plus, here are some other quickie quirky facts on the perks of kindness...
A University of Michigan reported nice is healthier. Older Americans who provide support to others, either through volunteer work or simply by being a good friend and neighbor, had a 60 percent lower rate of premature death than their unhelpful peers.
A University of Toronto reported that nice is luckier in love. People who are low key and congenial have one half the divorce rate of the general population.
Malcolm Gladwell in his book Blink reported that nice spends less time in court. Doctors who had never been sued spoke to their patients for an average of three minutes longer than physicians who had been sued twice or more.
And according to positive psychology professor and author Martin Seligman, the biggest feelings of happiness come from leading “a meaningful life," using personal strengths to be of kindly, altruistic service.
In an experiment called "Philanthropy versus Fun," Seligman divided his psychology students so some engaged in pleasurable activities (going to the movies, eating yummy ice cream) and the others did philanthropic activities (volunteering at a soup kitchen, reading to the blind).
Guess what?
The happiness afterglow of the fun was nada compared to the lasting happiness of doing altruistic acts.
Meaning?
Doing good for others will also make you feel good—and, according to Seligman, your highest level of feel-good.
Your Assignment: Today be aware of doing small kindnesses to others. Give an extra smile, sweet gesture, warm compliment, generous favor. Also, ask your self what loving deed can you do? How can you help those in greater need? Consider getting involved with a charity where you can make an ongoing contribution.
Please feel free to forward this newsletter to your friends/family. Also, feel free to re-visit my site behappydammit to re-check-out my books offering other tips on how to live your happiest life...
